A Cry For Help.
Andy Reid is a headstrong coach, numerous times his decision making; or lack thereof has cost the Philadelphia Eagles many games…some would say even a Super Bowl.
However as a parent – poor decisions and lack of good judgment puts both parent and child in harm’s way.
Reid’s sons Garrett and Brit were each sentenced today to 23 months for their roles in separate incidents on January 30 of this year.
Britt, 22 was involved in a road rage incident, where he flashed a gun at another motorist, who later called 911. The license plate was traced to the Reid residence. Britt was stopped in August after hitting a shopping cart in a parking lot, upon searching the vehicle 30 pills were found, Britt also failed a sobriety test.
Garrett, 24 confessed that he is a drug addict and former dealer that at got a thrill out of selling drugs in “the hood. He was involved in an accident while high on heroin.
Garrett has been in and out of jail for the past couple of weeks most recently as last week. In a recent development, 89 prescription pills were found in Reid’s cell, he apparently smuggled them in through his rectum upon his return to prison last week.
In speaking to his probation officer, Garret talked about how, being the son of a Philadelphia sports figure had its privileges. He talked about being well-known in the poor as well as affluent neighborhoods.
“I liked being the rich kid in that area and having my own high-status life”, Reid would go on to say, “I could go anywhere in the ‘hood. They all knew who I was. I enjoyed it. I liked being a drug dealer.” He later admitted that he no longer sells drugs.
“I did get a thrill out of it,” he said. “That was also part of the whole new world that opened up to me when I smoked that first joint”.
Garret would continue to lose himself in his own delusions of grandeur.
“These kids were scared of me, I was even selling to their parents…I turned everyone on to Oxy Contin.”
Too absorbed with trying to be the next Frank White, G-Money disobeyed the 4th Crack Commandment; Never get high on your own supply.
His drug use did not begin until after high school – starting out with marijuana and alcohol escalating to Oxy Contin, Percocet and cocaine. This landed him in rehab by the time he was 20 years old.
Judge Steven O’Neill would go on to lay into the parents Andy and Tammy Reid by questioning whether the two sons should even live there given their drug history.
“There isn’t any structure there that this court can depend upon, This is a family in crisis.” O’Neill would later compare the Reid home to a “Drug Emporium”.
While only weapons and ammunition were found at the Reid residence, O’Neill based his remarks on a statement made by Brit, who claimed the he grabbed a Vicodin tablet instead of a vitamin supplement out of a pill drawer in the house.
After taking 5 weeks off earlier this year to tend to his family’s issues, Reid has stated several times that he will not step down as coach of the Eagles. Owner Jeffrey Lurie has given his vote of confidence to Reid as well.
As a parent – I find this story disturbing.
As a fan – I find it frustrating.
As a Black Man – Once again I find the double-standard securely in place.
Let’s look at some points – I’ll lay them out and let you decide. I apologize if I’m going all over the place but I was trying to hit on the things that came to mind upon hearing the story.
- Reid has had full knowledge of his sons’ drug activity for sometime now. By not stepping away from his coaching duties I’ve come to the conclusion here that: 1)These kids have been crying out for help. 2) Taking a tough love approach by not taking time off to get your house in order is disturbing. This isn’t Terrell Owens he’s dealing with – Britt and Garrett can’t be fined, suspended or cut. 3) The responsibility shouldn’t all fall on the mother to raise the kids just because he makes approximately $5 million per year to wear three hats in the Eagles’ organization.
- As a parent you get but so many chances if any to get this thing right with your children, if you’re able to identify the problem consider yourself blessed.
- I’m not saying that Andy and Tammy Reid are bad parents, they’ve raised their children the best way they know how, let’s face it there is no parenting manual. The values you instill in them don’t come into play until they walk out the front door. Peer pressure and the desire to be accepted are some reasons why many of today’s youth are in these kinds of situations, and many come from good homes. A good home doesn’t necessarily mean in a financial sense, it means where values and morals are taught and enforced, where love is unconditionally present.
- There is something in this world called accountability – rhymes with responsibility, at a certain age they stop looking at the parents as much and look at the individual. At the end of the day regardless of who we are or who our parents are we have to own up to our actions. Hopefully, that point was driven home in the form of a jail sentence.
- NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell has taken a hard line towards any individual that has been in violation of the League’s Code of Conduct. In the case of Andy Reid, he has not been implicated in any wrongdoing BUT drugs and ammunition were found in his home, the vehicle that Garret was using heroin in was registered in Tammy Reid’s name. The Reids had full knowledge of their son’s activities and that cannot be overlooked. If Goodell had a meeting with Michael Vick when he first heard whispers of his dogfighting activity to get Vick’s side of the story, I expect the same treatment of Reid and that has not happened.
- How many of you know anyone that would’ve been given this much leniency in a case involving guns and drugs. The last time I checked a crime with a gun in the state of Pennsylvania carried an automatic five year sentence… no questions asked. Obviously, the rule doesn’t apply to everyone… never has, never will.
As a parent, I’m in full knowledge that my son is a reflection of me, however he acts in school, outside the home and later on in society will be traced to how his mother and I raised him.
No job is too important, no salary too high when it comes to my son. Andy Reid needs to call a timeout and make the proper adjustments to get this thing right.
Sadly enough, this is an opportunity that Tony and Lauren Dungy didn’t have.